A Guide for ‘Straight’ Guys Who Want to Explore Their Bisexuality

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This is Real Sex, Real Answers: An advice column that understands that sex and sexuality is complicated, and worth chatting about openly and without stigma — and that, sometimes, that means reaching out to a stranger on the internet for help. Rachel Charlene Lewis is a long-time reader and writer within the sexual wellness space, and is never not talking about sexuality. So why not join the conversation? Just one of the many unfair, damaging things that marginalized people have to deal with is constantly navigating the space between being our most honest, truest selves and not wanting to feed into stereotypes. But I can say that at the center of healthy relationships is honesty, and the ability to be yourself. I would recommend figuring out the answers to the below questions, for yourself, and then making a move from there.

It's one of the oldest cliches all the rage the book, that somehow having femininity with a man makes you a lesser amount of 'manly' and less attractive to women. But actually the opposite is a lot true, and society is finally communicable on. I'm a bisexual man. I've had sex with men, women after that long lasting relationships with both. Face-to-face, I have no preference. If I find someone entertaining or sexy I'll go for it, we'll work absent what's going on in the bedroom when we get there. To me having sex with a woman is amazing and having sex with a man is amazing for different reasons.

Afterwards years of wondering if I could ever be intimate with another be in charge of, I decided to hook up along with a dude my freshman year of college. I figured this bicurious affair clearly isn't a phase, since I'd been thinking about it for a few years. The only way I could know for sure if I was actually gay or bi was if tested the waters. So I did.